Did
you ever do something that you felt was so terribly misguided and
even wrong? Something that had an affect over another person or
persons who may well have become driven to revenge or another act of
rebalancing in the universe?
Sure
we all have done things we regret and wish we could undo. Would the
regret ever heal the wound? Would saying sorry ever be enough?
Like
many others I have played out the scenarios in my head time after
time, to see what might have made the difference, but I always come
back to the reality that this will forever be a lesson of life that
needs to be considered as a help in the present moment, if I would
ever want the future to be based upon a brighter truth. Nothing that
I could ever do now would change the reality of what has passed, and
I can only hope that the damage may lessen for the offended party.
The
worst thing besides the original act of injustice, is the regret. If
only... what if? Many times I chose to reconsider the options open to
me at the time and realise that many more things could have been
done, that would possibly have effected a different outcome. I was
foolish, immature and short sighted if not blinded by fear or hatred,
that helped me to make bad decisions and let down not only myself,
but my desire for personal integrity.
Sadly
I have to conclude that no amount of remorse or regret will ever be
able to change the things said and done, and that my only saving
grace is that maybe the 'other,' would find a place in their hearts
and memories to forgive. They may well not be able to ever forget
entirely, but a level of forgiveness could lead to some peace for all
parties involved. We all scrutinize our behaviours eventually and the
way in which we viewed our need to respond or retaliate at the time
for what we conceived was being done to us. But would we ever be able
to say, no-one harmed me, everything that happened was as a direct
result of my own choices? Possibly not, this is a very courageous
thing to say, let alone believe. But it is my new found view about
the past, that this in fact was true at that time, and was another
of those things that led to my actions and subsequent events.
Ever
heard the expression, 'you are your own worst enemy?'
Yeah,
well now I know that for a long time, a large part of my past, I was
the believer of non of this. I felt 'right' about everything and
therefore resisted the advice, council, and help of many people,
especially those I was close to and others I wanted to be close to.
They
may well have realised how stubborn and hard headed I was, and well
done to them for sticking to their guns so to speak and holding true
to their resolves, and or applying empathy towards me in respect of
my blindness.
But
in respect of the regrets, I now realise that they have no further
value towards peace of mind, and must be put aside, or the load I
will carry will be a continual burden my whole life. It is not that
easy to forgive yourself it would seem. Theoretically it should be as
easy as saying it. 'I forgive myself.' But the reality is not
so fast acting. Forgiving oneself, must come from a point of
knowledge that the 'act,' the 'offence,' cannot be changed. Blaming
oneself and taking responsibility have to be acknowledged, thought
they are not necessarily both the same thing. I was responsible for
my actions, but other factors can take some of the blame for them. As
I said before, naivety, inability to reason, stress, fear and
desperation can all be factors in why a person may have acted out of
line with their normal character. This is not meant to be an excuse,
merely a way to understand and therefore forgive myself for some
horrible things. Things that still to this day remind me of my need
to be brave in the face of danger, courageous in the face of fear,
innocent in the face of dishonesty, and loyal in the face of love.
I
am not about to get into details about the what's and how's, but
sufficed as to say I now remember them all in great detail and wish
to free myself of the regrets and allow remorse to do its part in the
healing process. It will then be possible to move forward to the
point at which I completely forgive myself for acting
inappropriately, badly and without total decency and integrity.
I
am truly sorry..!
If
anybody reading this would be so kind as to forgive me any
indiscretions towards them, that I may or may not be aware of, this
would be of great service to me in clearing any blockages still
present. I intend to be a man of peace, a man of integrity and a
valiant warrior of light. I realise humbly that to be this I must
clear away all hindrances and obstacles that would stop me from
achieving this aim. And beg your help and support in doing finer
works and being a better person.
I
pray that everything that I have ever done that has caused bad blood,
resentment and confusing interpretations of my actions be absolved
here, and my atonement, be this open plea for forgiveness.
I
throw myself at your mercy and declare my intention to go on to more
productive outcomes henceforth.
Thank
you for taking the time to review this topic with me.
Humbly
yours.
Peaceful
Warrior.
What a thoroughly engaging story.
Thank you Ian.
Thank you Ian.
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